This Generation Is Not Afraid of Love We Just Don’t Know How to Handle It

 Let’s be honest, love today feels like a transaction, not a connection and everybody is blaming everybody but no one is ready to look in the mirror. The guys are tired, they chase no more, you hear things like ( she is just going to use you, collect your money and move on to the next guy who is more richer). The girls are exhausted too they say things like ( He just wants sex, no effort, no romance just vibes and audacity). But beneath all the accusations is a painful truth that we don’t really know how to love anymore.

Now let’s start with the guys.

Many no longer want to court, impress or pursue chase a woman, they say they are done simping and to be fair, some have truly been burned, used, mocked, lied to, treated like an ATM with no pin of emotional connection. So now they’ve built walls and thay hide behind phrases like “no attachment,” and “I’m not looking for anything serious". Funny though but here is the catch, they still want loyalty, they still want submission, they still want a woman who loves them purely, but they forget that you can’t chase peace while creating chaos, you can’t demand deep love from a heart you won’t even water.

Now to the ladies.

Many scream “I know my worth, I'm a queen, I am the table this and that which is great, except sometimes, it comes with an unspoken clause and someone has to pay for it. Suddenly, love isn't about character anymore it is about lifestyle. iPhones, vacations and soft life. Bare minimum now looks like luxury and any man who doesn’t meet the ever growing standard gets hit with statements like you’re broke, you are not serious or get ghosted. Meanwhile, some of these same women bring nothing to the table but beauty and vibes, no kindness, no depth, no emotional maturity, just entitlement wrapped in beauty.

Hummm we want love but we don’t want the vulnerability it requires, we crave deep connection but we are terrified of being seen fully, our flaws and imperfections. We talk about loyalty but most of us are still texting other people just in case. We call each other toxic but we rarely take time to ask if we are emotionally safe to love. Love in this generation has become a performance, filtered, curated, fast and disposable. We talk about energy, vibe and intentions but can’t hold space for silence, struggle, or growth.

 I think we need to start being honest with ourselves, with each other. If you are not ready for love, don’t borrow someone’s heart for temporary comfort. If you want effort, give effort. If you crave peace, don’t be chaos and if you want to be understood, learn how to communicate. Real love still exists but it is buried under ego, fear, greed and games. We can’t keep saying “love is dead” when it is our hearts that need reviving.

What do you think? Is this generation truly afraid of love or just broken by it?

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